Hi there, I’m Rebecca Cooper Traynor! Founder of Match Me Canada, your modern matchmaker and dating coach. Over the years, I’ve helped countless singles navigate the wild world of modern dating, and one thing that comes up time and time again? Obsession. You meet someone, and suddenly, they’re all you think about. Why do we do this? And how can we break free?
Why We Obsess
1. The Chase Feels Rewarding
Our brains get a dopamine hit from unpredictability. That “will they or won’t they” energy can keep us hooked, even if it’s not healthy.
2. Seeking External Validation
We want to feel chosen. When someone shows us attention, it can feel like proof that we’re worthy—even though our worth isn’t dependent on anyone else’s approval.
3. The Fantasy Trap
Let’s be real: sometimes we’re more in love with the idea of a person than who they actually are. Obsession thrives when reality takes a backseat to daydreaming.
Tips to Stop Obsessing
1. Cultivate Self-Awareness
Ask yourself, “What am I really craving right now?” Is it connection, validation, or maybe even a distraction?
2. Set Boundaries
Limit how much time and energy you spend thinking about or checking up on this person. No late-night Instagram scrolls, okay?
3. Focus on Your Growth
The best antidote to obsession? Focusing on you. Take up a new hobby, dive into self-care, or—better yet—book a coaching call with me.
Need some support? Let’s work together to create healthier relationship patterns and a stronger sense of self.
Book your coaching call today!
With love and real talk,
Rebecca Cooper Traynor
Match Me Canada
