Hi! I’m Rebecca Cooper Traynor, founder of Match Me Canada, your modern matchmaker and dating coach. For over 15 years, I’ve been guiding singles through the rollercoaster that is modern dating. Let’s be real—when dating gets tough, many of us start replaying the highlight reel of our ex in our heads. Suddenly, you’re remembering all the “perfect” moments and asking yourself, What if I gave them another chance? Let’s unpack why this happens and why running back to your ex isn’t always the answer.
Why the Highlight Reel Plays
1. Frustration with Dating
When dates don’t go as planned, our brain loves to romanticize the past. The person who once drove you nuts now seems like the best thing since sliced bread.
2. The Comfort Zone
Your ex is familiar, predictable, and safe. And when dating feels like a battlefield, familiarity can feel pretty enticing.
3. Selective Memory
You’re likely only replaying the good times. But don’t forget—the same issues that ended your relationship will still be there.
Why Going Back Rarely Works
Let’s get honest: did your ex suddenly change? Are the things that didn’t work before magically fixed? Likely not. It’s natural to feel nostalgic, but remember that love isn’t about settling or going backward—it’s about finding someone who aligns with your life now.
Action Steps to Move Forward
• Journal It Out: Write down why the relationship didn’t work.
• Focus on Growth: What did you learn from your past relationship?
• Stay Patient: Dating is a process, not a sprint. Trust that your person is out there.
The truth is, love takes time and patience. It’s easy to get discouraged and think about the “what-ifs” of your past relationships, but your future is full of potential if you keep your heart and mind open. The right person for you is out there—someone who will fit into your present life, not your past.
If you’re feeling stuck, I can help. Whether you need guidance navigating the modern dating world, want to build your confidence, or simply need a fresh perspective, I’m here for you. Let’s work together to create your success story.
Ready to take the next step? Book a call with me to explore how date and relationship coaching can help you find lasting love.
With love and encouragement,
Rebecca Cooper Traynor
Founder, Match Me Canada
